Relationship therapy

Relationship therapy in The Hague

Do you feel lonely in the relationship?
Do you talk little about your deeper feelings with each other?
Do you argue and blame each other for the relationship problems?
Do you live alongside each other?
Do you experience little intimate moments like hugging and sex?

If this is the case, you are in a phase of removal and distance. Anger, criticism, and demands are all distress signals for your loved one, inviting them to open their heart so you can emotionally win them back and restore the feeling of emotional security. Such protests can be eliminated by insight, involvement and emotional closeness as your beloved moves toward you. This is recovery of the bond you once shared with one another.

The Relationship Therapy

During a series of relationship discussions, I focus on your emotional attachment. This is in accordance with the teachings of Dr. Sue Johnson and Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT). During this course, we also have an individual session. We explore and identify the painful areas in the relationship as well as the destructive distance. Then we explore how distance and blame can be replaced with positive dependency, intimacy and compassion.

You are welcome to call me with any questions you may have (see contact information).

Relatietherapie Den Haag

Most arguments are in fact a form of protest against the loss of emotional attachment and a secure bond.

The underlying questions are actually:

 Can I still count on you, trust you?
Are you available for me?
Will you respond if I need you, if I call for you?
Do I still mean something to you?
Am I still appreciated and accepted by you?
Do you need and trust me?