You can check with yourself how the relationship is with yourself in certain situations:
has your vulnerable you in your lead?
Do you feel vulnerable, not completely adjusted in contact with your peers?
Or your protector / manager; do you play the game that is expected?
You repent, make you overcome, you do everything to be invulnerable and suppress your needs?
Each of us consists of several iks. The construction of certain voices is in all of us.
Apart from serious, strong, playful, courageous, anxious, manipulative, insecure, powerful, creative, dominant, obscene, wise etc.
Protection and vulnerability
As soon as we are unaware of our vulnerability (e.g., a new situation, new work, public speaking, rejection, a party, a setback, criticism) and failing to deal with vulnerability or being unaware One of the protesters – often the inner critic –
Who constantly gives criticism of everything you do. Shot by the criticism of the people around you. For example, the inner critic is known to many of us. He does not allow you to feel good about yourself, what you’ve achieved and how. He wants to keep you from shame, pain, disappointment and make sure you can not be rejected by others.
Our protecting voices / parts want to make us strong and resilient in the outside world so that others do not abuse you, do not reject you, fight against bumps, make mistakes, be loved, etc. The influence of the protective Our defense, denial of need, false power, criticism for ourselves and others, perfectionism, fear, false hope and shame, is not small. They make sure you play the game that the world around you (peers, school, work, friends) expects you to be included in that game and you can keep it through and take , Also for our ability to cope.
The vulnerable part in us (inner child) remains in our presence as a part person, inter alia, for intimacy in our relationships, needs attention and love, relaxing and enjoying life from a playful and open mind. With the child’s development, the child becomes stronger, more vulnerable, less dependent. Still, there remains a place in which we are that vulnerable child. At one point we are not just that vulnerable child; We are more than that. Often, it is a part of us who will protect this inner child, often at an early age. The realization of this hurt child is denied by our protection mechanism.
For example, if you feel like you are not welcome, there are beliefs like “I’m not good enough” or “It’s my fault.” If there is no one who hears and reassures this vulnerable child, we continue to believe in our fears and keep projections alive.