A sense of safe connection between loving partners is the key to a loving relationship and a deep source of strength. Hazan en Shaver
Method of Relationship Therapy
The first big step toward healing your relationship is the decision to investigate the relationship and accept assistance. During our first meeting, I take inventory of the stagnant points in your relationship and see if there is a “click” between us, an important condition for successfully helping you in therapy.
Couples who sign up for therapy already feel a sense of calmness because the relationship therapy gives them something to hold on to. The sessions take place on a regular basis with a commitment of at least 10 conversations.
During a number of conversations we will focus on the following topics:
• Learning to recognize the (destructive) patterns that cause blame, removal and distance
• Insight into bonding patterns
• Expressing needs
• Caring behaviors for one another
• Forgiveness
• Space for vulnerable emotions (such as shame, sadness, fear)
• Learning to take risks
• Intimacy & Sexuality
• Maintaining the relationship
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I work according to a step plan as identified by Dr. Sue Johnson, author of Hold Me, among other publications, and founder of Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT). |
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As a loved one, you think you know each other through; You can read the other as an open book. Nothing is less true. For example, a conflict or removal seems to be strangers. Relational therapy is really a rediscovery of yourself, the other and you together. There are insights and feelings that you or your partner had no idea of.
If you are able to show your fear of loss and isolation, you can easily talk about your needs and desire for more affection and affiliation. The revelation then moves to respond with more tenderness to its own needs and share the vulnerabilities with the other. This creates emotional attachment that we really desire.
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